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I may not be a feminist after all….

My special friend sent me the below TED talk link and said, “Since you are a feminist and have a whole section on your blog you may want to see and share  this”.

It was such a timely message from her – because just earlier in the day I was called a sexist by couple of other ‘special friends’. It had me thinking and reflecting (and upset): Am I really a feminist ? Or Am I sexist?

I was forced to examine my beliefs and convictions, thoughts and ideas, and statements and feelings. I still believe that all human beings are equal and should not be discriminated against for gender, race , sexual orientation and economic status. So what made them call me a sexist?

My responses to their question , they said- and the vehemence in which I expressed my opinion, they said. Those  questions and the essence of my responses :

Would you vote for  Carly Fiorina or Hillary Clinton in the 2016 election (assuming ofcourse that they become their respective party candidates)?

I would not vote for Carly because her stance of abortion interferes with the fundamental freedom of a woman to decide on her healthcare choices with her doctor.

(Does this response make a feminist? Or a sexist? )

Do I support killing pain-capable foetus then?

My stance on abortion is this:

-If a foetus is capable of feeling pain then imagine how much more pain the born child would have to endure if it’s unwanted and ends up being uncared for. I would rather a foetus experience the one final pain rather than a lifetime of pains.

-Unless the society/government changes in such a way to ensure that every born child will have all their needs met , including love, 100% of the time , I believe society/government should not interfere in the choice of individuals.

-If a government believes in pro-life I expect the government never to go to war – to dismantle all nuclear weapons and Weapons of mass destruction . And to have  all guns in the country melted to make cradles.

(Does this response make a feminist? Or a sexist? Or socialist? )

Question: who would you vote for: Bernie Sanders or Hillary Clinton – both are pro-choice ?

All things being equal between the two candidates, I would vote for Hillary Clinton because she is a woman.

(Does this statement make me a sexist? It might seem so…but No….because…)

Why?

Because the United states of America – a developed “super-power”- has not had a woman president or even a woman vice president since its founding. The percentage of women in US Congress is low (just touched 20%, see source below). There were more systemic roadblocks in place that prevented women like Hillary Clinton (women from that era) from progressing than today – while the men enjoyed more privilege…..so all things being equal , in 2016, I would vote for a woman president because

  1. I want to give her the advantage that she has lacked 
  2. she had to work harder to be “equal” to a male who has had systemic advantage. Therefore she is a better candidate.

Am I still a sexist? Did I move towards the feminist midpoint? Do I care what my label is?

If the society changes to allow people of all genders (more than the binary version of genders) equal opportunity  and gender inequality exists only in a museum display as an ancient artefact – with all things being truly truly equal between candidates like Bernie Sanders and Hillary Clinton and when  women represent around 50% of the senate and house, who would I choose? 

I would choose the one who looks good, as I had already written in an earlier post . Bernie Sanders , if you want my vote you better be a good looking dude 🙂 

I don’t know what this response makes me: sexist or feminist or shallow? Do I look like I care?

So who would you vote for between a male and female candidate?  Considering that the two candidates are equal in every respect ..who would you choose: a man or a woman?  And what does that choice make you? A feminist or a sexist?

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P.S – Thank you special friend!

source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Women_in_the_United_States_House_of_Representatives

Number of Women in Congress by House

Number of women in the United States Congress (1917–2013):[2]

Congress Years in Congress % in House % in Senate %
65th 1917–1919 1 0.2% 1 0.2% 0 0%
66th 1919–1921 0 0% 0 0% 0 0%
67th 1921–1923 4 0.7% 3 0.7% 1 1%
68th 1923–1925 1 0.2% 1 0.2% 0 0%
69th 1925–1927 3 0.6% 3 0.7% 0 0%
70th 1927–1929 5 0.9% 5 1.1% 0 0%
71st 1929–1931 9 1.7% 9 2.1% 0 0%
72nd 1931–1933 8 1.5% 7 1.6% 1 1%
73rd 1933–1935 8 1.5% 7 1.6% 1 1%
74th 1935–1937 8 1.5% 6 1.4% 2 2%
75th 1937–1939 9 1.7% 6 1.4% 3 3%
76th 1939–1941 9 1.7% 8 1.8% 1 1%
77th 1941–1943 10 1.9% 9 2.1% 1 1%
78th 1943–1945 9 1.7% 8 1.8% 1 1%
79th 1945–1947 11 2.1% 11 2.5% 0 0%
80th 1947–1949 8 1.5% 7 1.6% 1 1%
81st 1949–1951 10 1.9% 9 2.1% 1 1%
82nd 1951–1953 11 2.1% 10 2.3% 1 1%
83rd 1953–1955 15 2.8% 12 2.8% 3 3%
84th 1955–1957 18 3.4% 17 3.9% 1 1%
85th 1957–1959 16 3.0% 15 3.4% 1 1%
86th 1959–1961 19 3.5% 17 3.9% 2 2%
87th 1961–1963 20 3.7% 18 4.1% 2 2%
88th 1963–1965 14 2.6% 12 2.8% 2 2%
89th 1965–1967 13 2.4% 11 2.5% 2 2%
90th 1967–1969 12 2.2% 11 2.5% 1 1%
91st 1969–1971 11 2.1% 10 2.3% 1 1%
92nd 1971–1973 15 2.8% 13 3.0% 2 2%
93rd 1973–1975 16 3.0% 16 3.7% 0 0%
94th 1975–1977 19 3.6% 19 4.4% 0 0%
95th 1977–1979 20 3.7% 18 4.1% 2 2%
96th 1979–1981 17 3.2% 16 3.7% 1 1%
97th 1981–1983 23 4.3% 21 4.8% 2 2%
98th 1983–1985 24 4.5% 22 5.0% 2 2%
99th 1985–1987 25 4.7% 23 5.3% 2 2%
100th 1987–1989 26 4.9% 24 5.5% 2 2%
101st 1989–1991 31 5.8% 29 6.7% 2 2%
102nd 1991–1993 33 6.2% 30 6.9% 3 3%
103rd 1993–1995 55 10.3% 48 11.0% 7 7%
104th 1995–1997 59 11.0% 50 11.5% 9 9%
105th 1997–1999 66 12.3% 57 13.1% 9 9%
106th 1999–2001 67 12.5% 58 13.3% 9 9%
107th 2001–2003 75 14.0% 62 14.3% 13 13%
108th 2003–2005 77 14.4% 63 14.5% 14 14%
109th 2005–2007 85 15.9% 71 16.3% 14 14%
110th 2007–2009 94 17.6% 78 17.9% 16 16%
111th 2009–2011 96 17.9% 79 18.2% 17 17%
112th 2011–2013 96 17.9% 79 18.2% 17 17%
113th 2013–2015 102 19.1% 82 18.9% 20 20%
114th 2015–2017 104 19.4% 84 19.3% 20 20%