My special friend sent me the below TED talk link and said, “Since you are a feminist and have a whole section on your blog you may want to see and share this”.
It was such a timely message from her – because just earlier in the day I was called a sexist by couple of other ‘special friends’. It had me thinking and reflecting (and upset): Am I really a feminist ? Or Am I sexist?
I was forced to examine my beliefs and convictions, thoughts and ideas, and statements and feelings. I still believe that all human beings are equal and should not be discriminated against for gender, race , sexual orientation and economic status. So what made them call me a sexist?
My responses to their question , they said- and the vehemence in which I expressed my opinion, they said. Those questions and the essence of my responses :
Would you vote for Carly Fiorina or Hillary Clinton in the 2016 election (assuming ofcourse that they become their respective party candidates)?
I would not vote for Carly because her stance of abortion interferes with the fundamental freedom of a woman to decide on her healthcare choices with her doctor.
(Does this response make a feminist? Or a sexist? )
Do I support killing pain-capable foetus then?
My stance on abortion is this:
-If a foetus is capable of feeling pain then imagine how much more pain the born child would have to endure if it’s unwanted and ends up being uncared for. I would rather a foetus experience the one final pain rather than a lifetime of pains.
-Unless the society/government changes in such a way to ensure that every born child will have all their needs met , including love, 100% of the time , I believe society/government should not interfere in the choice of individuals.
-If a government believes in pro-life I expect the government never to go to war – to dismantle all nuclear weapons and Weapons of mass destruction . And to have all guns in the country melted to make cradles.
(Does this response make a feminist? Or a sexist? Or socialist? )
Question: who would you vote for: Bernie Sanders or Hillary Clinton – both are pro-choice ?
All things being equal between the two candidates, I would vote for Hillary Clinton because she is a woman.
(Does this statement make me a sexist? It might seem so…but No….because…)
Because the United states of America – a developed “super-power”- has not had a woman president or even a woman vice president since its founding. The percentage of women in US Congress is low (just touched 20%, see source below). There were more systemic roadblocks in place that prevented women like Hillary Clinton (women from that era) from progressing than today – while the men enjoyed more privilege…..so all things being equal , in 2016, I would vote for a woman president because
- I want to give her the advantage that she has lacked
- she had to work harder to be “equal” to a male who has had systemic advantage. Therefore she is a better candidate.
Am I still a sexist? Did I move towards the feminist midpoint? Do I care what my label is?
If the society changes to allow people of all genders (more than the binary version of genders) equal opportunity and gender inequality exists only in a museum display as an ancient artefact – with all things being truly truly equal between candidates like Bernie Sanders and Hillary Clinton and when women represent around 50% of the senate and house, who would I choose?
I would choose the one who looks good, as I had already written in an earlier post . Bernie Sanders , if you want my vote you better be a good looking dude 🙂
I don’t know what this response makes me: sexist or feminist or shallow? Do I look like I care?
So who would you vote for between a male and female candidate? Considering that the two candidates are equal in every respect ..who would you choose: a man or a woman? And what does that choice make you? A feminist or a sexist?
P.S – Thank you special friend!
Number of Women in Congress by House
Number of women in the United States Congress (1917–2013):
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